The Lavalife (and trying to hook up)

Véro invited me to the first edition of a single's 5 à 7 event. It was fun. I met some people, mostly Véro's friends. Actually, I didn't make much of an effort to meet anyone else because:

- Véro's friends are quite fun
- There weren't lots of people there
- I have trouble breaking into other people's conversations

I think it's a much better way to meet people than Lavalife. Last week, I deleted my lavalife profile after 2 years ( <-omg! )... I had 4 burst of lavalife activity during which I met 7 girls, of which I called 3 back for further dates, and whom 1 refused.

Here's the cycle I went through:

Hope: So many profiles to look at
Emphatuation: OMG, she's perfect for me! I can't beleive we havn't met yet!
Money: How much does this thing cost anyways?
Excitement: Wow, I hope she likes my letter
Worry: Maybe she thinks I'm a weirdo...
Addiction: Did she respond yet... what about now? I'll just check again.
Valorization: Oh, how many "smiles" did I get today? (encourages addiction)
Cheating: Communication with several people simultaneously
Discovery: Oh, so you like to swim and read John LeCarre??
Communication: Yeah really? My day was kinda shitty too.
Proposition: Huh, maybe we should meet...
Real Life: The first 5 minutes tells you more than 1 month of email
Discussion: I had fun, how bout you? ("yes, me too" or "I'm kinda tired..")
Decision:
1) Do I want to sleep with this person?
2) Can I stand this person for more than 5 minutes?

One of the biggest problems with internet dating (and there are many) is that you HAVE to make a relashionship decision after the first date. It's like, yes or no, right now.

In the human, reality-based courting process, it usually takes a few meetings before people get attracted to each other. That option is not open in internet dating.

The advantage of dating sites like Lavalife is that most people on there are actually single and looking for something meaningful, which is not the case at a bar or club. You also get a nice profile of that person's general interests.

The disadvantage is that knowing a person is interested in "long walks by the beach" tells you nothing about the chemistry... the sparks that tells you, yeah, this is good. You can't feel that on a computer screen.

Dialy Hapiness Index: 7/10 (meeting new people is always fun)